LIFESTYLE/PERSONAL: Friendships/Relationships

Hey lovelies...bit of a ranty post today. Sorry.

Am I the only one that feels like their friendship group gets smaller as you grow up? At school and college I was never super popular or anything but I had my friends. Now it's got to the stage where I find it difficult not to get annoyed with people I'm around for too long.

There was a time I literally stopped going out in favour of staying in with Teddy. Most people thought it was because Teddy was keeping me locked away in the tower when simply it was that I couldn't handle drama, bitchiness and people making me feel bad about myself.

Fast forward a couple of years and you'd think people would have grown up right? Wrong. I actually think it's got worse, boys have become more bitcher than girls and it's unbelievable.

I love being around people that are exciting, funny, interesting and understanding. Probably 80% of people that talk to me on whatsapp start a conversation with 'So this person messaged me saying this'. What happened to 'How are you?' 'I saw this and it reminded me of you!'. If you say 'So what's the gossip' I most likely wouldn't piss on you if you were on fire. If there is gossip and you're asking everyone I don't think people want to tell you shit for a reason!

Recently I haven't felt the need to go out because the space in my flat is so big I can dance to Nicki Minaj's Ananconda all day  this person isn't talking to this person, or unrequited love just becomes a bit awkward to watch, or two people just leave someone out because they don't have the same interests. Also, it's never been about Teddy not letting me out. For some reason people in the past have thought that. It's ridiculous because 1- he's not like that and 2- we have separate lives. I'm coming off as a horrible person but I wish everyone was just happy doing their own thing without making others sad/uncomfortable.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not a saint by any means. I bitch, I get annoyed, but I don't think that should be the base of a friendship. Where's the compassion? The empathy? I've actually had a conversation with someone telling them I'm in hospital and they replied with 'oh cool, so I'm gonna go out with this guy on Friday'. Maybe I was raised wrong or I'm just selfish, but I would automatically ask what was wrong if any of my friends were in hospital!

I've also seen friendships where people are in competition with each other. What is the need to prove you're better than someone else?! Your relationship with your boyfriend isn't better than mine because your're doing something differently to how I have. You're not better than me because you have more followers and fans. You're in a new relationship you shouldn't have to worry about what other people will think or say, it's hardly fair. Just be happy and let others be happy! Everyone is at a different stage in their lives so just let them be and focus on yourself. You'll be happier and have less worry lines!

Apologies again for the rant. Just something that's been causing me to have Jaden Smith face all week. Also this is my little space on the big ol' internet where I ramble, I don't mean to cause any offence or make anyone upset. How do you guys feel about friendships/relationships as you're older?

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  1. Agree with this 100%! You'd think as we age people would leave their school ways behind but it seems most are still stuck in the playground. You just worry about yourself and the people you love and you will be fine! :) xxx

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    1. Awh thanks! Good to know others feel me!
      xx

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  2. You are not alone, I too have experienced this. Too the point where I just stop replying to peoples messages or change the subject. Unfortunately it seems some people never grow out of the school playground gossip thing!

    Its usually those who try to make themselves appear better than others, who are the most unhappy. Negativity spreads like wildfire and people do not even realise they are doing it. I prefer to remove the negativity!

    Great post!
    Much love,
    Peachy x

    www.tro-unicorns.uk

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    1. YES to getting rid of negativity! Feels like a weight off your shoulders
      xx

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  3. Whilst reading this, I was saying 'Yes, Yes... YES!' in my head because it felt like you were basically reading my mind. People these days are very selfish and not many 'friends' actually care about you, they just see you as a person to share gossip. You're not alone, people like us need to stick together and form our own army.

    Aftab x
    Fresh And Fearless

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  4. Ohhh, I totally agree! I find as I'm getting older, work and other commitments end up getting in the way. At school I was in a group of about 13, which ended up being 7 during Sixth Form. Everyone went their own way at the Uni stage. Luckily all the girls I became friends with also lived in Essex, but after making the effort the majority of the time, it's like they have no time for me! xx

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    1. Oh no! Why wouldnt they have time for you?! You're so lovely!!
      We can stick together though :)
      xx

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